We are thrilled to introduce Cindy Quiala as our newest contributor to the Cybex Blog. Cindy's passion for fitness led her to study kinesiology at California State University-Northridge. She brings over 30 years of experience in the fitness and wellness industry from her positions at Southern California YMCA's.
A Balancing Act
Work/life balance. What is that? Is there a clear definition? Do we have to have it? Is it something others have and I don’t?
A work/life balance in the fitness industry is what YOU want it to be. It’s what you want it to look like. It’s what you BELIEVE it looks like.
I found mine 19 years ago. I was working for a YMCA in Southern California and putting in 12 hour days, five days a week and raising a 5-year-old. After about six months of this, I realized how much of her life I was missing. I would come home and she was already fed, bathed and had story time. But, even seeing this, I thought I had to keep working those 12 hour days. I mean isn’t that what you are supposed to do? Especially if you want to move up the “ladder” and make more money, right?
While I was struggling with this, my workouts seemed to be the one thing that helped me get through it. Of course, with this schedule, I wasn’t even getting those in as much as I liked. As a result, I found myself crying my eyes out in my car every morning in the parking lot. It took everything I had to open the car door and walk up the stairs to my office. My life was what I considered to be the definition of unbalanced.
The Tipping Point
So, how did I find this balance I mentioned earlier? I woke up one day and realized I couldn’t go on this way any longer. I knew if I did, I would look back on my life with regret. I decided that in order for me to find some balance, I had to overcome the fear of confronting my supervisor to let him know how I was feeling, and find a way to remedy it. What fear, you ask? Pick one: the fear of rejection, fear of failure, or the fear of incompetence. I talked through everything quite openly with my supervisor from the long hours, to the lost time at home and the fears I had, all of it. Fortunately, my supervisor completely understood.
After that talk, the eight hour days started (of course, there were the occasional 10 hour days, too). I learned to let go of those things that I knew didn’t have to be done at that exact time, or on that specific day. I didn’t “need” to be at the office for 12 hours a day. If I didn’t get to something, it would be there for me tomorrow. My daughter, however, wasn’t going to be five forever.
I was home to cook dinner, read to her at night, and I was playing outside with her before it was dark. You know what else? I was working out regularly again and feeling fantastic. My daughter is now 24 and I can honestly say I have no regrets about my decision back then, because I didn’t let work get in the way of raising my daughter. I also haven’t stopped working out, staying fit and eating healthy. I even continue to work for the YMCA after 32 years.
Striking the Best Balance for You
So, that is my work/life balance. That is what worked for me and it still does to this day. If you’re struggling like I was, look deep inside, find what you need to attain your balance and own it! What you decide today could impact the rest of your life.
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Cindy Quiala has been an athlete her whole life and studied kinesiology at California State University-Northridge. She served as a gymnastics coach and director for 16 years, and has worked for the YMCA as a personal trainer, group exercise instructor and Healthy Lifestyles Director for over 30 years. Cindy is a wife, mother of 2 daughters, ages 24 and 17, and a motivational blogger.
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